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Two entries in one day (well almost) Wow!! I dont' usually update this often, but something really set me off, just a few minutes ago. I was reading thru various diaries I had never happened to visit before. I came upon a diary that sounded very interesting (the person shall remain nameless to protect the shallow selfish and stupid from further embarrassing themselves with their lack of humanity, and to prevent what could be the start of an ugly flame war which I DO NOT wish to be a part of. IF this person see's my entry and recognizes them self, well maybe they will learn something, maybe they will be mad, but its my diary dammit and right now I am torked to maximum boiling point.) What has set me off, well its a subject I hold near and dear, children. Particulary children who's parents are no longer together, and one of the parents had moved on to someone else. This rant is directed toward the someone else. If you are a single childless person who is involved with, married to or thinking about a person who has a previous family then proceed with caution. This is directed to you, but you may not like it, or you may actually agree with me. Either way consider yourself warned. I have kept my mouth shut on many "hot" topics, but this one while not a 'hot' topic in the usual sense of controversial issues (ie. abortion, gay rights, etc...) is definately one that may get some peoples underwear in a knot. TOUGH!! As the parent of a child I am very pissed. Not at the my ex, for once but at the person who wrote that particular entry. I won't even diginify it with a quote, as they may see it and know who they are, but the jist of it was that they hadn't chosen to fall in love with someone who had kids, and since the break up of the relationship wasnt' "her" fault, the kids should just accept it and leave her alone with her new squeeze after all a 13 year old girl shouldnt' need a daddy right. (okay the last part was a sarcastic exaggeration on my part but that's the jist of it.) Well let me respond.
You say you didn't choose to fall in love with a man who has children. I say BULLSHIT!! You had to know long before you were committed that this man had children. Guess what, that means when you agree to commit to him, you are also commiting to his ex, his kids and any baggage that commes with them. He divorced his ex, for what ever reason, (did you ever stop to think that most relationsips are a two way street, and he is not Mr. Innocent victim, but he did not divorce his kids. They are a part of him, and they still love an need their daddy. You my dear are the intruder not them. They may not like you at first, after all you are the new member, and you are taking the place they see as belonging to their mommy. GET USED to it. YOu are the grownup, they are the kids, so stop acting like you are 40 going on 14. When he made those kids he also made a commitment that takes precedence over any ideas you might have about your happy little fantasy. If you dont' want to deal with that, you should have thougt about that before you said 'I DO". If you wanted a perfect happy little fantasy life with no baggage you should have found a man with no previous ties, he could make you his only priority and you could go right on pretending you are the center of the universe. But Guess what you are not . The only universe that centers around you, is the one of your own making, and unles you get your head out of that smelly place it is stuck in, you are in for a very bumpy ride. As the mother of my child, I can guarantee that if you hurt my child or keep him from his father in any way, You WILL PaY. She is crying and lonely and upset and wants time with her Daddy. Well gee, imagine that. A young girl whos father is off playing house with some bimbette, and she feels hurt. Who'd of thunk that huh. Well if your husband is half the man you think he is, guess what, His first priority in life will be his kids and not you. If you don't like it then tough shit. You made your choice, now I hope you choke on it.
The Other Parent
Did I just say all that. Whew. I haven't cursed like that, since I tried to use the rocking chair as a step stool, and turned my rist into a piece of modern art. Well I'll be sneaking off now, while I wait to see if any one decides to flame me, or stop speaking to me.
The EXTREMELY Cranky One
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In every neighborhood there is at least one house that all the neighbors gossip about. This is a diary from the woman who lives in that house. I am a single mother in her mid thirties. I live in North Dakota with my son, Warren.
I tend to be a bit of a slob, and am the opposite of a girly-girl. I am geek girl, who loves Star Wars, Star Trek, Harry Potter, Buffy, Angel, action movies, science fiction, action adventure, Dr. Who, and so on and so on.
I love to write and while I don't post much fiction online anymore I would love to be a writer someday. I am also overweight, bipolar and suffer from allergy induced asthma.